Dear family and friends around the globe,
What an incredible outpouring of love we have witnessed being lavished on my father, and our family. Words fail to convey the deep gratitude we all feel. Your support, along with God's abiding presence and peace, has guided us thru this unexpected season of our lives.
Today marks the 7-week anniversary of the call I got from dad, letting me know a growth had been found on his pancreas. It's a sunny crisp winters day in the Pacific NW, with a beautiful blue sky framing dad's study window. As I sit at his desk and look around his study, I see so many memento's and items that highlight his rich life journey:
A Master of Art and Doctor of Ministry diploma from Andrews University hanging on the wall, with his 1980 cap tassel along side..... a beautiful picture of Table Mountain taken in the early evening from Blouberg Strand.....another framed picture of the Sydney Opera House.....a 2006 Masters hat (along with other hats hanging on the wall), celebrating the opportunity I had to take dad back to Augusta Georgia, to walk the hallowed fairways of Augusta National, a golf event we used to watch every year on TV back in South Africa in the early hours of the morning, thanks to the 11 hour time difference.....a framed display of Diane's first CD and CD cover.....some traditional Rhodesian art pieces with elephants displayed against a copper background.....a South African flag hanging over the entry to his study, with an Aussie boomerang above it.....2 silver Mercedes Benz model cars (his full sized Bircherized pride and joy, sitting in this garage).....a Walla Walla memento hanging on the wall.....some soapstone sculptures from Zimbabwe.....a filing cabinet with meticulous alphabetized folders, holding every time of paper that has probably ever crossed his desk:). Guess I didn't inherit that trait!.....a framed letter from Adventist Health board of directors, recognizing 5 years of outstanding service as a board member.....a small Russian doll.....a "tweetalige Woordeboek" English / Afrikaans dictionary.....a collection of too many books to mention (one of my favorites being, " Long walk to Freedom", Nelson Mandela's autobiography) and finally, a plague from the Seventh-Day Adventist Church and the Meadow Glade church family to: Pastor Alf Birch ~ in grateful recognition of 50 years of devoted pastoral ministry.
Papa, you have blessed my dad with an incredible life! If the measure of a man success in life is to be measured by his profound influence on the lives of people, then you, Alf Birch, are going to graduate magna cum laude!
Given the pain medication that dad is taking, one of the side effects has been hallucinations. It is remarkable what memories reside in the sub-conscious, and dad (ever the administrator), has continued to believe that there are wedding to conduct, board meetings to chair, and numerous events that require his full and complete attention. It's almost as though in his mind, he has toured the world and said good bye to people. He has moments of clarity, but the effects of the medication are significant. He spent at least 2 hours or so last night talking Afrikaans, visiting and saying goodbye to friends and family from his past. In some ways it was actually amazing to realize how deeply ingrained friendships and memories are. Is dit jy Bess? Vaar is Deon? Kom Esme en Leon ook by? Hello Joey? Wat se jy Katie? He would often lift has hand as if to wave good-bye, chuckling to himself sometimes. References were also made to Biltong, a little chocolate, and a nice cup of tea:) He kept saying how beautiful it was, and I can't help wonder if our heavenly Papa is not perhaps giving him little glimpses of his true home! Even in the midst of hallucinating, he often praises God and references his goodness. During the times that we have held music to his ear, he simply raises his hands and blesses God.
Diane got home last last night from NYC, and dad was able to recognize her, asking about the 2 concerts she just played in NYC. I stayed at his bedside until about 1pm and then just slept in the room next door. Di was able to stay by his side till about 4 in the morning.
Dr. Kelli (who has been an absolute angel to our family) came by again this morning as she does at least once a day, and I think she's gotten the medications dialed in, and he is now sleeping comfortably. Our primary goal and objective are to make him as comfortable as possible, hoping that he will sleep as much as possible.
Should his father be ready to take him home, we think that could well happen this weekend or soon after. Some of us were privileged to see dad 'do a little dance' at my daughter Megan's wedding this past August. We can only imagine how cool it will be when he gets to dance with the angels in the presence of his heavenly father.
We know that many of you had hoped to visit dad in person, but his condition simply no longer allows that. His condition has made it impossible for mom to read emails or even open all the hundreds of cards we've received. Thank you for your understanding in this regard. The day will come, when mom, and we as a family, can get around to giving your correspondence and communication the attention it deserves. Please be assured, that our inability to respond to most of you, in no way reflects our lack of gratitude or appreciation for the outpouring of love and support you have so graciously showered on dad and our family. We have simply been overwhelmed by how quickly dad's condition has deteriorated.
The journey in the natural, does not seem to be playing out as we had hoped. Nevertheless, we continue to trust God's ultimately best for dad, and we are at peace as a family. His ultimate destination is as real as the writing of this blog.
Forever grateful and appreciative.
With our love~
The Birch Family
I think there is nothing more telling than what comes out when someone is no longer completely lucid. To hear of your father's thoughts in those times brings tears to my eyes, tears of sadness to lose such a man – who is proving what is on his heart to the very end, tears that contain appreciation for having known him here and hope in seeing him again in heaven.
ReplyDeleteThank-you so much for communicating like this to the broader community that embraces your dad and family. May you all find rest this Sabbath day.
Thank you for keeping us updated Ray. How beautifully you have written about your precious father. We love your dad and your family so very much and our hearts ache for and with you at this time. God's ways are mysterious and we will continue to hold you up in prayer!
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Ray,
ReplyDeleteYour words are so loving, so honoring, and so picturesque into the world of this wonderful man. My heart so regrets having been away too long to have had one last smile of his cross my eyes. I will, along with all of us, look forward to heaven!
Alf....thank you for being such a faithful man and for bringing the heart of Jesus to those in your midst.
Estelle...what a gift of love. So thankful for the years God has blessed you both with, and praying for your journey forward. Love you, Julie
What a wonderful letter, I like to think of your dad saying so long to his friends. I never knew your dad well but he officiated at my best friends wedding and whenever he saw me after that date he would clasp my hands within his and give me the warmest welcome. I am so sad to see him leave this world but I know that we will see him again. God be with your family during this great sadness. Lynne Kaiser McClure
ReplyDeleteDriving down the interstate from Portland this afternoon, I can confirm what I said to Alf last Friday night, "Die Dominee se spore le nog diep op die I5!" Of course his impact is more than on the roads of the NorthWest - it presses into the hearts and fibre of all who were touched and loved by Alf Birch.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing this journey with us. Your father was a giant among men and well loved by all. He always had a ready smile and warm greeting. He will be greatly missed. Our prayers are with your mom and your family as your grieve his loss and celebrate in his future.
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This morning, long before I got to church and heard the news, this song came to mind along with Alf:
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Sabbath did, indeed, bring rest....
The only thing that comes to mind for me is in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. So beautiful how you write about your Dad.
ReplyDeletePrayers to you All! I only recently heard of this unexpected diagnosis and immediately have lifted prayers to heaven. God sees way beyond our human view, and how Beautiffuly you shared Ray of your father Alf's journey. He was a Wonderful man of God and Estelle so faithful by his side . As a young student missionary back in 1983, I can only say that your parents were So caring to me like parents making me feel less homesick and loved. So naturally To see them again as you All came to the States was Amazing! The bond and support felt every time I met them again, whether at camp meeting in Gladstone or at one of our churches, or at the Adventist Conference your father was such a witness to me. We can not always understand or see why, yet to Know God has allowed this path for us is strength because He has us in the palm of His hand. I'm sorry for this loss, yet comfoted as You that we will all see your father again on that Great Resurrection morning when God comes to re-unite us with our loved ones!! As I too await to see my own parents! You are Loved! Rest and sleep, my good and faithful servant! Yes, my thouhts as to Gods words to your father, husband, friend, grandpa, brother , and son. You have run the race, fought the good fight and now await the prize to recieve the kingdom of heaven. ((Hugs)) to you All. Becky Harvey - Holden.
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